The texting culture– where people expect that you will send a text message via your cell phone instead of the usual phone call with your voice or video call- has been a big boon to introverts.
Some introverts tend to feel rushed or drained by face-to-face or voice-to-voice encounters, especially if you catch us when our social quota is depleted for the day. The 24/7 connected-ness that cell phones and the internet have brought throughout society could have proved to be the worse thing that happened to us this century.
However, a texting culture allows for our way of life as introverts. With texting, you have time to think through your response before sending it. You can respond an hour later, if you like. You don’t have to come up with something witty or clever right now, as you do on the phone or in face-to-face encounters. If you’re drained from being around people all day, you can rest and then text. You don’t have to make a decision right away.
You have time to ponder.
You have time to breathe.
You have time to just… be.
And the thrill of it all is that this is now the NORM, people! The NORM! Not only introverts are doing it. Today, it’s almost weird to call someone – whether introverted or not- when you just wanted to send a smiley face emoji. Do you realize how exciting that is?
[Side note: Texting also gives you a visual record of the communication, which makes my inner historian shriek with joy. I have now started to print out some especially memorable texts and affix them to journals.]
People might rail against the downfall of humanity, that we’re not calling like we would have in the 20th century. And maybe they are right, in some respects. But really we are doing what our ancestors did – sending letters or homing pigeons- only faster and with more of a likelihood that the message will arrive at the destination.
For once, introverts are not the odd ones who wish to write out a response instead of talk. We have it so good right now. Savor this moment!
Deborah the Introvert